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A safe place for
deep thinkers and sensitive souls.

Created and led by Molly Finch, a holistic counsellor for thoughtful, sensitive, and quietly different minds.

Holistic Counselling & Psychotherapy for adults and teenagers (15+) based in Fremantle (Perth), online, and over the phone.

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Hello Friend,

I’m Molly Finch, a certified Holistic Counsellor, Meditation Therapist, and Psychotherapist based in Fremantle.

I specialise in working with deep thinkers and sensitive nervous systems, offering support for anxiety, trauma, and those who often feel like a 'black sheep'. I also have a strong focus on men’s wellbeing, offering a steady and supportive space where men can explore their inner worlds. My work is grounded in somatic and mind–body therapy with adults and teenagers (15+), supporting a deeper connection with their body, emotions, and inner wisdom.

I founded Mind Habitat to offer a soft, grounded space where sensitive, thoughtful minds can feel truly seen, heard, and understood.

My approach goes beyond traditional talk therapy — blending psychotherapy with holistic, mind-body techniques to help you heal trauma, move forward, and cultivate more joy, presence, and confidence in your life.

About Me

My Approach

I offer trauma-informed, somatic, and psychotherapeutic counselling that blends person-centred therapy with mind–body practices and evidence-based approaches including psychodynamic therapy, existential therapy, ACT and CBT. My focus is on supporting your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual well-being in a deeply holistic way.

My specialties include:

🦄 Sensitive Nervous Systems

👁 Deep Thinkers or those who feel like a "Black Sheep"

👨🏼‍💼 Men's Health & Wellbeing

💙 Anxiety & Trauma (Incl. PTSD & CPTSD)

🌹 Grief & Loss

🧠 Mental & Emotional Health & Well-being

💫 Relationships

🙏 Life Transitions

🌈 Career & Purpose

🌱 Personal Growth & Healing

Sessions are available in Fremantle (Perth) & Online (worldwide) for adults and teenagers (15+).

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Men's Therapy

Some men move through the world with more awareness, sensitivity and curiosity—about themselves, their relationships, and the deeper layers of life.

If you’re someone who feels things intensely, asks big questions, or senses there’s more to life than what you've been sold, you deserve a space that truly honours that depth.

I offer men’s therapy that supports men who want to understand themselves more fully—emotionally, mentally and somatically. Through a trauma-informed, somatic and psychotherapeutic approach, I help men explore their inner world, communicate with greater clarity, break old patterns, and feel more grounded, capable and connected in their lives and relationships.

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WHAT DOES PERSONAL POWER LOOK LIKE?

A WELL OF INNER PEACE

The more you understand yourself, the more love and clarity you obtain which creates more comfort and calm within you. This is true inner peace.

FREEDOM & LIBERATION

More choice becomes available to you when you expand your awareness, allowing you to feel more in control, instead of feeling like life controls you.

LOADS MORE CONFIDENCE

With more empowering thought processes, you naturally develop more trust, self belief and self worth, all of which result in more courage and confidence.

MORE MEANING & PASSION FOR LIFE

When you become aware of past barriers you are able to shift them, leading to more alignment with your authentic self. This ignites more passion & enthusiasm for the things that truly matter to you.

INCREASED ENERGY

As you understand yourself more, you invest less energy trying to make sense of things which frees up energy for what really matters.

DEEPER CONNECTION

As you develop a deeper understanding of yourself you are able to connect with others and life on a much deeper level. This creates more love & meaning.

Are You a Highly Sensitive Soul?

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You feel things deeply — emotions, environments, other people’s moods — often more intensely than those around you seem to.

You’ve learned to go inward, not because you wanted to disconnect, but because the world hasn’t always felt safe or understanding of your depth.

You may have felt unseen or misunderstood for much of your life, as though your way of being doesn’t quite fit the pace, noise, or expectations of the world around you. You notice subtleties others miss, think deeply, reflect often — and yet this inner richness can feel lonely when it isn’t met or recognised.

You might withdraw to recharge, to make sense of your experiences, or to protect your nervous system from overwhelm. At times, this inwardness feels like a refuge; but other times, it can feel very isolating. You may wonder if something is “wrong” with you, when really, you’ve just learned to survive in a world that isn’t designed for sensitivity.

If this resonates, there isn't something wrong with you — you’re responding intelligently to your environment and it makes sense in the context of your experiences. With the right support, your sensitivity can become a source of strength, self-trust, and deeper connection to life.

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WHAT PEOPLE SAY

LUKE

I did not know there were other options available other than seeing a clinical psychologist. I would have sought help sooner if I had known someone like Molly was out there.

OLIVIA

I have never felt so empowered in my life until doing my sessions with Molly. I feel heard and there is never any judgement. I hardly recognise myself after these past couple of months (In a good way!) I feel so much more content and happy within myself.

ELAINE

There are people who touch our lives at certain points on life’s journey and we are forever grateful to having met them, Molly is that person for me. In relatively few sessions, Molly’s approach and positive guidance kept me focused. She has a way of helping cut through the clutter. Molly has continued to support me whenever I need it and comes with my highest recommendation but above all my honest and heartfelt gratitude.

EM

Having these sessions with Molly has changed me for the better, my friends and family have noticed and make it known to me a lot of the time. Most importantly I feel a lot better within myself than I did before I’d been introduced to any of this. My mindset has improved dramatically to be a lot more positive and open minded about situations. I’ve learnt so many new and helpful skills and I’ve gained the motivation and confidence to begin helping myself more. This journey has been life changing. Thank you Molly, for helping me so much :)

LAURA

My time with Molly has been invaluable. Having spent some time in traditional therapy previously, I had some knowledge of my beliefs and what was holding me back but lacked the tools I needed to move forward. With Molly I was able to instill new positive habits and become more aware of my daily stressors, and how to move through and reframe them. From the other side of the world, Molly has helped inspire me to take the steps necessary to open my own business and had given me the tools to ensure my own personal success. For that I am eternally grateful. Set up a session, it could change everything.

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GROWTH ON THE GRAM

Many people think that when they avoid something (they either want to do, or need to do), it’s about motivation or discipline.

They often judge themselves for being lazy, flawed, or incompetent – particularly in the world we live in that celebrates productivity and outward achievement.

For many humans, procrastination is actually more about what is happening in the body, when they either think about beginning, or try to start.

Tension, mind fog, restlessness….a sense of shutting down.

Sometimes, there isn’t even a clear feeling - just numbness or disconnection which leads to doing something else.

Maybe you want to start your own business, begin that project, or clean out the closet.

Maybe you need to finish your assignment, talk to that person, or do your tax return.

Your avoidance of these things does not make you a failure. They are simply opportunities to become curious about what’s happening inside.

It’s a nervous system that learned, at some point, that slowing down, focusing, or feeling was uncomfortable or unsafe.

It’s a result of years of pushing away in order to move on, and pushing down in order to please.

When the body doesn’t feel safe, it looks for relief.

Staying busy, scrolling, distracting, putting things off…going numb.

Not because you don’t care, but because your system is trying to protect you.

Safety doesn’t begin in our mind.
It begins in our body.

And when we haven’t learned the skills to be with our feelings and process them naturally, we wind up numb from the neck down but ruled by what we can’t feel.

We wind up feeling like we have no real control over what we do and then up blaming ourselves unnecessarily.

When we learn how to safely be in our body, peace, clarity and movement tend to follow - naturally, without force.

Curious about how to feel safe in your body? You’re welcome here.

#mindbodytherapy #somatictherapy #sensitivesouls #deepthinkers #procrastination

A lot of men were taught (directly or subtly) that the world would only meet them if they hardened.

Less feeling. Less reflection. Less softness.

Many learned early on that tending to their emotional world was unnecessary, indulgent, or unsafe. So they adapted. They overrode. They kept going.

But hardening comes at a cost - to connection, creativity, intimacy, and aliveness.

Over time, that quiet self-abandonment can show up as exhaustion, irritability, anxiety, numbness, or a sense of feeling disconnected from life itself.

And yet, many men are deeply curious about the world - how things work, what matters, why they feel the way they do.

Curiosity, though, needs space. And for a lot of men, there was never a place where slowing down and asking those questions felt safe.

In my private practice, the work isn’t about fixing you or turning you into someone else. It’s about creating a grounded, steady space where you can return to yourself - at your own pace, without pressure or performance.

Strength isn't the absence of feeling - it just requires space to integrate it 🙏

#menswellbeing #menswork #deepthinkers #somatictherapy #menstherapy

If you’ve ever looked at the world and felt like it was somehow backwards or insane, you’re not alone. Feeling different or never quite at home in the world can be exhausting, confusing, and deeply lonely. But it’s often also a sign of your depth, awareness, and sensitivity.

Traditional academic environments may have felt strange to you. Being asked to rote learn and regurgitate can leave your curiosity dulled, your insight overlooked, and your felt sense of the world dismissed.

Home life may have been painful too, when you grew up in spaces that didn't really see you. Living in a microcosm that doesn’t reflect your inner world can create a quiet loneliness - and an ongoing tension between remaining connected and staying true to yourself.

If you’ve always felt like the outsider, the black sheep, or the one who notices what others miss, this space is for you. At Mind Habitat, I work with deep thinkers and sensitive nervous systems, helping you feel less alone as we make sense of what’s really going on for you.

Here, there is no expectation of who you should be. Only a space where your truth is welcome, and your experience is met.

#Blacksheep #Deepthinkers #Sensitivesouls #Psychotherapy #Traumainformedtherapy

If you’re someone who feels things deeply, chances are that at some point you’ve been told you’re “too sensitive.”

But is it that you’re too sensitive — or that you’re perceptive in a world that moves too fast to notice itself?

We’re often taught that our value lies in what we produce and achieve, with little attention given to what life actually feels like on the inside. For those who are curious, thoughtful, and deeply feeling, this can mean your strengths go unnoticed or underappreciated. You may have been overlooked for roles you were capable of, or found yourself forcing your way through environments that didn’t honour your natural rhythm.

Deep down, you know who you are but somewhere along the way, that inner knowing was buried beneath expectations, pressure, and the constant noise telling you who you should be.

In my private practice, I work with sensitive nervous systems, deep thinkers, and those who have often felt quietly different. This is a space where your depth and sensitivity can be truly seen, heard, and understood - without pressure, judgement, or expectation.

Because life begins when your nervous system feels safe, and your inner world is met with care - not fixing.

If this resonates, know that you don’t have to navigate it on your own.
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#Sensitivesouls #Deepthinkers #counselling #Traumainformedtherapy #Psychotherapy

One of the biggest misunderstandings we face as humans is our concept of what processing emotion really is.

Many people I encounter struggle to be with themselves, thinking it’s unproductive or pointless to sit with their thoughts. They’ll say things like, “What’s the point of stewing over worst-case scenarios?” or “I don’t see the value in analysing the same thing over and over.”

In some ways, they’re right! It’s not helpful to do this. But the issue isn’t being with themselves—it’s HOW they’re being with themselves. Most often, people get stuck in their minds, unaware that their thoughts are a reflection of how they feel.

When thoughts are racing, running through worst-case scenarios or trying to solve an unknown, the emotion behind it is FEAR.

What would happen if we simply recognised that our thoughts are signposts for the emotions in our body?

What could we discover if we became curious about why we feel this way?

What if we didn’t avoid this place but chose to stay with it?

From my own experience, we often move away from solitude because it’s uncomfortable and scary. That makes sense—many of us are filled with fear. We haven’t yet built the skills or trust that sitting with our emotional state will pass and transform.

When we’ve never learned to be with our emotions, the initial feeling is often fear or panic. That’s because we’ve been stacking stones our whole lives, unaware of how high the pile is getting. When we try to stop, ALARM BELLS ring as we realise the pile is unsteady and could collapse.

The awareness of this overwhelming pile often sends people running to distractions. But what if, instead of distracting ourselves, we stayed with it? Staying with it gives us a chance to realise what we’ve been doing and create change.

Staying steady helps us recognise what we’ve been carrying. It becomes clear why everything feels hard. Processing emotion starts with being WITH your experience. It may be slow, but fewer rocks mean more peace and freedom - something we all deserve.

#psychotherapy #holisticcounselling #emotions #processingemotion #unconsciousemotion #healing #healingjourney

For a long time, people have only been presented with one (maybe two) options when it comes to looking after their mental & emotional wellbeing.

Doctors often refer to psychologists (or psychiatrists) because they align with the SAME MODEL. This is why mental health care plans are often limited and prevent access to a range of other helpful alternatives – particularly those focused on root cause and preventative care.

I know from trying to access alternative health services myself, and from being a provider of one, how frustrating it is not being able to receive or give healthcare rebate support.

However☝🏼 it is invaluable to know that there are many other options available. And sometimes, despite our flawed system... it's absolutely worth it. Because sometimes having a rebate for the wrong service, is about as helpful as a sale on tyres when you need new brakes.

Psychology and psychotherapy serve very different needs – which is why it is so important to understand what yours are; so you can find what you’re looking for.

If you have any questions, comment below or feel free to send a DM🙏💙💫

#psychotherapy #mentalhealthawareness #wellbeing #holisticcounselling

I think we all need a little more soul, a little less society 😇🙏

If you or anyone you know are looking for support with grief and loss at the moment, I am still currently taking new clients. Please feel free to DM any inquiries.

#griefsupport #grief #holisticcounselling #psychotherapy #healing #personalgrowth

Somewhere along the way, we seem to have picked up the idea that heavier and challenging emotions somehow mean that something is wrong.

We seem to have perpetuated the idea that our job is to feel happy and light all the time, whilst dodging anything that feels uncomfortable.

We’ve somehow been taught that sadness, grief, frustration, anxiety are things to get rid of, making us feel that we need something external to “fix it” or dissolve it.

Or even worse- we’re encouraged to pretend it’s not there, get on with it, or choose happier thoughts - essentially stuffing them down and creating more problems emotionally, physically, or relationally.

Shunning part of what makes us human often leads to considerable internal stress. We may look like we have things together on the outside, but on the inside, we feel insecure, unsure, and afraid.

We think that not feeling the heavier and challenging emotions is better - but in reality, we end up feeling less connected than ever.

We end up turning to things like food, alcohol, TV, sex, drugs, gambling as a way to help soothe the feelings - but ultimately we end up experiencing heavier emotions like guilt, shame, or more anxiety than before.

The truth is that being a human is hard, traumatic, and deeply emotional. The key isn’t to not feel that way – it’s to learn how to safely feel it all.

Learning to tap into and connect with all our emotions is more beautiful than we could possibly imagine.

It’s not just about “feeling feelings”, it’s about opening up to ALL of who you are.

When we accept and tolerate our heavier and challenging feelings, we get to experience the feelings on the other side of that coin that have been equally suppressed – like excitement and joy.

We get to feel DEEPLY ourselves… and that feels magical 😇🙏💙

#holisticcounselling #emotions #feelings #innerwork #personalgrowth

My approach and philosophy on all things therapy, growth & healing.

If you'd like to connect, I'm currently taking new clients (face to face in Perth) and online 😊🙏

#counselling #personalgrowth #awareness #human #traumahealing

One of the most frequent questions I get is: "what actually is holistic counselling?"
and what I have realised over the years is that most people don't actually know the difference between Psychology, Counselling and Psychotherapy. Often times what people think is psychology is actually counselling - and this may explain why many people can't find what they are looking for when they seek therapy.

Counselling and psychotherapy tend to focus on the quality of the RELATIONSHIP between client and therapist, and emphasise that change and healing happens when we feel safe, seen, and heard by the person across from us. This often means having an equal dynamic where the therapist is NOT an expert on the clients life. This isn't to say that we can't find this sort of relationship with a psychologist, but rather to explain that counselling and psychotherapy fields have actively steered away from the medical model which have traditionally focused on "fixing" and is based on a power dyanamic that can be disempowering.

I am currently taking new clients for 2025 online (worldwide) and face to face in Perth so feel free to DM any questions or enquiries 😊🙏

The words I wish someone had once said to me….❤️

If you are looking for more support, tools or resources on your healing journey, I’ve started working on a project called The Soul movement. It’s a YouTube channel specifically focused on mind-body healing and emotional well-being.

The channel has guided meditations, mindfulness for beginners, and music for all types of healing and practices including meditation, yoga and sleep. You can check it out via link in bio or go to thesoulmovement88 directly on Youtube.
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🎵 Dan Phillipson - Making Progress
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#meditation #mindfulness #anxiety #anxietyrelief #mentalhealth #mentalhealthsupport #holistic #mindbodyhealing #healing #selfhealing #selfcare #mindfulness #counselling #counseling #holisticcounseling #emotionalwellbeing #stress #stressrelief #healingjourney #trauma #traumarecovery #holistictherapy

"No one ever tells you"

It is rare that you ever hear the full truth about safety.

We hear about physical safety for sure.
In fact, we’re constantly bombarded with messages about physical safety.
Don’t do this, don’t do that, watch out for this, and watch out for that.

But what about internal safety?
About how to feel safe in your own body?

Rarely are we taught how to cultivate internal safety.
How to become aware of our emotions…
How to process our experiences…
Or connect with how our body really feels.

No one ever teaches you what happens to your body when you experience stress or trauma…
How it stores all of your painful emotions…
And how your body starts running off survival energy.

No one tells you that when these emotions are left unprocessed, your body begins to experience more and more stress…
And how over time this can lead to a dysregulated Nervous System…
And a constant state of survival energy.

No one ever tells you that this energy can be felt as anxiety.
Or that it can result in not being able to read a book because you can’t pay attention…
Or feel like you’re always worrying about time.
No one tells you it might be why you can’t relax or why you struggle to sleep.

Practicing and learning about mind-body healing can be helpful in so many ways. Not just healing debilitating anxiety or panic attacks…but in seeing all the ways you may be hard on yourself.

It can allow you to develop compassion for your experience and for others, and when you feel safe in your own body, you allow others to feel safe with you.

It can allow you to see the power in being vulnerable and the connection, collaboration and love that is possible when you aren’t trapped in fear, jealousy or competitiveness.

And most importantly, it can allow you to see all that is possible in this life.

#mentalhealth #anxiety #traumahealing #stressmanagement #mentalhealthawareness #psychology #selfhealing #selfimprovement #mentalwellness #resilience #mindfulness #emotionalwellness #counseling #selflove #recovery #mentalstrength #healingjourney #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthsupport #selfdevelopment

Don't fear boredom in meditation, try using it as part of your practice 😊🧘🏼

I enjoyed putting this one together as part of a new project I'm working on called @the_soul_movement

The aim is to create more heart led resources for anyone looking to find more presence, peace and healing in their day 🙏

🎵 @brockhewittstories
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#meditation #mindfulness #relaxation #peace #calm #selfcare #mentalhealth #inspiration #healing #wellness #gratitude #tranquility #mindful #selflove #stressrelief #mindset #namaste #spirituality #boredom #transcendence #transformation #mindbodysoul #mindbody #mindbodyconnection

It seems that every second person is being diagnosed with ADHD these days and I can’t silence the alarm bells that are going off in my head.

I feel this may either call our attention to something greater, or lead to something much graver.

At the core, I fear we are losing sight of what it is to be human…

The pain and the pleasure.

The struggle and the triumph.

We’re not helping people to connect with their experience, their root issues and how to overcome them.

Instead, we’re hell bent on pushing a fantasy land with the promise of pills to sustain it.

But often we don’t get there. Or at least, we realise it’s not where we really wanted to go.

Because we don’t feel human. We’re not BEING human.

We live in such an OVER STIMULATED world that celebrates productivity and external output to no end.

We expect people to be creating from the moment they wake up to the moment they go to sleep.

We want people to be present, but insist that they multitask.

We assume people should feel good all the time and if they don’t, then there must be something wrong with them.

We claim that everyone should stay connected to each other, but don’t teach anyone how to connect with themselves.

We don’t educate people on the impacts of stress, trauma and overstimulation.

And so we don’t know our own feelings and emotions.

It’s no wonder every second person feels like they can’t stop procrastinating.

Like they can never follow through and complete tasks.

That they can’t prioritise or plan sufficiently.

Can’t focus on one thing or do multiple things at once.

Feel restless and bored when there is nothing to do.

Have an uncontrollable outburst behind the wheel or fly off the handle at work.

What people are experiencing is absolutely true and real.

Of course it is.

The problem is not their experience but how our system seems to be dealing with it.

Are we supporting people with what they really need? Are we really dealing with the root cause?

I’d love to say yes, but sadly I don’t think so.

If deep down you feel like it doesn't quite fit or that there is something deeper at play, I encourage you to lean into that as much as possible. Trust yourself 💙

Ode to Anxiety ✨

When I’m chronic, people may become hypersensitive, tense and agitated.

They can feel edgy, restless, and sometimes alert.

They may endeavour to be busy not realising they just don’t like how I make them feel when they relax.

When I’m around, their minds live in the future. They constantly think about what’s next or what they need to do and say.

Wherever I go, I always bring Time with me. He always make them feel like they don’t have enough.

Sometimes when people experience me, they don’t recognise me for me.
When I'm very intense, people often mistake me for a Heart Attack.

When I’m bad I’m really bad, and people think they’re losing their mind.

They’re often tired yet wired, and deep sleep is impossible.

Coffee and alcohol are my two best mates who always encourage me.

When I’m chronic, I stop people from being present. I keep them distracted and watch on as they procrastinate.

Instead of letting them read or enjoy a conversation, I’ll tell them stories about all the things that could happen but never will.

I scare people from saying what they want or from doing what they desire in life.

When people first learn about me, they often think I only live in their mind. They don’t realise that I can’t exist without the body.

People often identify with me, but I don't belong to anyone.

You can't have me because I constantly change and evolve.

I live in unresolved trauma and unprocessed emotion.

I make appearances when you go through big life hurdles or changes.

I stay around when your nervous system doesn't know how to relax.

But if you try, I’ll protest.

If you take pills to try and erase me, I'll still exist.

You can’t run from me because I’m part of the human experience.

To dissolve me, you have to be with me.

Healing me requires accepting me,
Taming me means facing me,
And thriving from me demands knowing me intimately.

People think I’m evil but they really just don’t know me.

#anxiety #anxietyawareness #mentalhealth #selfhealing #resilience #mindbody #meditationpractice #poemoftheday #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthpoem #instagrampoet

Vance and I just completed 2200km in 3 days to make it back to WA 🚐

Quarantine wanted to take my one and only decorative piece - my everlastings 🌸

Luckily I know how to plead a good case 😅

#vanlife #lifeontheroad #freedomseeker #adventureseeking #campinglife #campervans #travelingaus #travel #motivation

Embrace the unknown 🙏💙✨☺️
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#personaldevelopment #personalgrowth #selfdevelopment #selfdiscovery #selfmastery #truepath #consciousness #lifeguidance #motivation #mentoring #freedomseeker #lifeontheroad #thoughtsandreflections #foodforthought #growthmindset #motivationalwords #inspiration

The last two weeks have been truly amazing.

After finishing the 10 day Vipassana, I felt a strong intuitive pull to stay at the center instead of getting back on the road as planned.

I didn’t really know if I could or what would happen if I did, but I just knew it is what the soul wanted.

Staying on meant that I could continue to focus on certain things without feeling pulled in so many different directions by the outside world.

It was the perfect training ground for integrating what I had just practiced with my slow return to reality.

As it turns out, it’s was a very fruitful time!

Here are 3 of my main focal points that helped make it such a transformative time.

1. Allow things to unfold: I wanted to practice letting go of the impulse of needing to be somewhere or having something to do. Staying at the center was part of this. I didn’t want to let plans interfere with how I was feeling in the moment & end up forcing me to move on when I didn’t want to. I’ve watched thoughts of needing to have everything worked out & trusted that I'll know when it’s time to move on, or that the universe will give me that nudge. And it totally worked that way too!

2. Observe, don’t react: I loved practicing this in a simpler environment where I wasn’t “doing” all that much. Still sitting for 4-5hrs a day in meditation I held the intention to just SIT even when my mind was thinking “you literally are so unfocused, this is a waste of time” or when I was flooded with things I "need" to do & my mind thought it was absolutely essential I go do that now 😂 I’ve tried more so than ever to watch but not react to just how persuasive my mind can be.

3. Appreciate, but don’t cling: This was a big one! Everything is CONSTANTLY changing – things that feel good & things that don’t. When good experiences were happening, I reminded myself that it WILL come to an end...which is totally okay & natural! Using this mindset really allowed me to appreciate what I was experiencing WAY MORE & filled me with a lot gratitude. It’s also allowed me to let go without agitation when it came to an end. Like leaving the centre ✨

If you try them, let me know how you go! 💙✨🙏😊

Flowing WITHOUT attachment ✨

Life on the road so far has been pretty amazing.

I wasn't sure how it would go juggling my own personal journey as well as helping others navigate theirs.

But then I realised, it's no different to when I'm stationery.

Although it's had its challenges, working from the van has actually been really wonderful.

Not just because of the changing scenery, but more so, the way it has honed in on the reality of life.

The reality that I'm sitting in my van with condiments and tablespreads as my backdrop.

The reality that I'm not in an office or some approved workspace.

In some eyes it could be seen as unprofessional... but I see it as truth.

It's breaking down the barriers that exist every day between humans.

The roles we play, the masks we wear.

Living my life in the exact way I want is so incredibly important to me because I want for people to know that they can do anything.

I want to show people that in order to do whatever you desire, it's not about what you have.

It's about what you don't have.

It's about not having attachments to things & people.

Not having attachment to financial security, job security, relationship security or social security.

It's about letting go of needing these things which ultimately prevent you from doing what you truly want.

It's about listening to your heart & soul instead of what has been fed to you your whole life.

And I'm not going to lie, living in the grey zone is challenging...

but after a while you realise that you ALWAYS land on two feet.

You're always universally supported when you are brave enough to folllow your true path.

So don't wait to feel safe or sure before you do something, because you'll be waiting a lifetime.

Know that your mind will contest and do it anyway 😜

#vanlife #lifeontheroad #freedomseeker #selfdiscovery #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #mentoring #lifeguidance #followyourheart #lifegoals #adventureseeking #reflections #selfmastery #nonattachment #conscioisness #innerwork #intuition #love #motivation #motivationalthoughts #inspirationalwords #inspiration

Have you ever got into a relationship & after a while, slowly realised you had completely lost yourself?

You felt like you no longer enjoyed things you used to, & a part of you went missing with it?

Perhaps there were moments where your significant other went away & you noticed you felt at ease…

There was a lack of worry, anxiety or constriction that had previously been there.

Maybe you walked away from the relationship entirely, & all of a sudden felt totally free.

And in your newfound freedom you could suddenly breathe again.

Life was refreshing & you began to feel like your old whole self…happier.

But then time passed & you noticed again that you felt like someone or something was missing from your life.

Your desire to be with someone took over & your ability to enjoy your freedom diminished.

Humans find themselves in this conflict a lot.

The desire to be free & the need for love.

Because somewhere along the way, we were taught that we can’t have both.

That if we truly love someone, we should do anything to make it work.

That we should sacrifice.

And we end up giving up parts of ourselves….

To make the relationship “work” or to make our significant other “happy”.

It is my understanding that this problem arises because all the stories, romance novels & movies don’t depict freedom.

They glorify relationships which are totally absent of any freedom & call it “love”.

And I think as a result, we've come to mistake freedom for independence.

Because someone who is truly free doesn’t fit this narrative...so we call them independent.

But when you think about it, what does that even mean?

To be independent, is to be free.

Freely yourself; whether you are in relationship or not.

Our goal is not to be in a relationship.

It is to allow & encourage those we love to be free & to be with people who support us to do the same.

Because love should be freeing.

And expansive.

And if it isn’t, we are not really in a space of love at all.

We just find ourselves in a relationship with conditions.

Freedom & love need to go hand in hand.

It becomes our job then, to let go of the stories & learn how to build them up together.

#freedom #love

Oh, to be alone with our mind 🤯

Even after six years of having a solid meditation practice, I am still amazed at how challenging & cunning the mind can be.

I had a feeling that heading into my most recent 10 day Vipassana Meditation that it would be difficult.

Having spent the last couple of months between houses, living in a van & without my regular meditation practice (for the first time in years), I was definitely feeling more mental agitation.

Kickstarting my journey with Vance & choosing to journal the trip online definitely pulled me more out of the present moment at times.

My mind was definitely enjoying it! 😅

I could tell that stillness was becoming less of a friend & found that I was more easily lured by my phone & external distraction.

Plunging into 10hrs a day of meditation without access to so much as a pen & paper for 10 days was definitely the jarring experience I had expected this time round.

My mind wanted none of it on day 1 😂

It’s funny how agitated you find yourself & how squirmy your mind becomes trying to escape.

I’m sure it told me 60 times on day 1 that it’s not a good time to have come & I should maybe come back another day.

It really can be very persuasive 😂

But after many years I have learned that it is not my mind who is my master.

And in fact, if I just observe it, it will eventually run out of juice & surrender.

It’s like cracking open a bottle of coke & waiting for the fizz to settle.

You just have to let it happen & let it pass.

Let it have it’s moment to freak out but don’t let it fool you.

Our mind needs to remain plugged in because when we’re really alone, we must face what’s real & true.

And there's no denying, it can be challenging at times what reveals itself.

But we should never be afraid of this place, for this is how we can finally know ourselves.

Our true self.

Many speak of wanting to relax but when they try, this is the reality that they face.

They wish to feel rejuvenated but realise they always seem to be busy.

We have to learn to be alone with the mind first.

Only then can we truly relax.

Truly find peace & truly feel at home 🏡💙🙏

#vanlife #lifeontheroad #freedomseeker #selfdiscovery

Nowhere to be & nothing to do ✨

People today feel so much pressure to be progressing in life.

They feel like they need to be ticking things off in order to be achieving.

Or worry they’re wasting their time if they’re not doing something.

Car rides, being alone or time off are usually some of the things that create a sense of agitation.

Most feel like they have to be busy otherwise they're left with this looming feeling that they’re not getting anywhere.

So many humans are stuck in this vortex of “going”.

And it creates so much anxiety.

But where is everyone supposed to be going?

The mind truly is a funny thing when you take a step back & look at it.

Have you ever noticed that it’s constantly focused on being somewhere else?

That it thinks it progressed by completing a task it set for itself?

And when it finally gets to something it planned, it already wants to be at the next thing it planned?

It always wants to keep going but it is never happy or content with where it is.

The mind dictates so many people's lives.

It has become the master, when it should be the slave.

As humans, the biggest thing that we need to drop is the mind that says we need to go somewhere.

And that’s not to say that people don’t achieve amazing things or do amazing things in their life.

It's more about how they feel on the inside.

How do you feel?

Do they still look to the next thing before they’ve recognised where they are?

Do you?

When you let go of the idea that you need to be somewhere or you have to do something, life feels so much lighter.

You realise that enjoyment truly begins when you’re not constantly telling yourself you’re not keeping up.

For the first time, you’re able to experience what is actually happening in your life.

And that FEELS GOOD...

At your soul level, not your minds.

And then you realise how ridiculous all the rushing, the ticking things off, the “can’t wait for it to be over” really was.

It doesn’t make any sense.

**An exercise to help with this is to you just pay attention to how your mind responds to things throughout the day for ONE day.
Just watch it, notice…and laugh!

The truth about doing the inner work ✨

Inner work is extremely undervalued & underappreciated in our society.

Which is why it can be a lonely & isolating experience at times.

No one is showering you with praise like you lost a bunch of weight or got in shape.

No one is buying you a present or putting money in your wishing well.

Facing your demons is always going to be challenging, which is why so many rarely have the courage to do it.

It's more than just strengthening your mindset.

It’s about building awareness & mastering your entire being; mentally, physically, emotionally & spiritually.

It’s about taking full ownership of every part of your life.

Ownership of how you think, react & feel...

And why you think, react & feel that way.

It’s about unravelling every part of who you are & letting go of everything that isn’t.

It’s facing what you’ve been through & leaning into it.

It’s knowing that anything you’re not facing, you’re running from.

Its challenging.

And anyone doing it will know because instead of being validated by anyone around you, the opposite is often true.

When you grow and change, friends or family might not like it.

People don't get why you no longer want to do what you used to.

They may question your desires to end something old or start something new.

Or even criticise you.

And most often, inner work is seen as a problem you are temporarily trying to fix.

Well, no matter what it is, you know that all of it is simply more practice for your growth.

Not everyone will get it, & at times, that’s what builds your strength, courage & bravery.

At the end of the day, doing the work is something you do for yourself.

It’s one of the very few things in life that you don't do for anyone else.

Maybe that’s why a lot of people don’t yet understand the value…there is no external reward.

But here's the thing...

Walking the path teaches you that it’s not about external reward.

Its about external return.

It’s about what YOU feel, not what others feel.

And when you feel good, that's the only real way to help others and the world 🌍 💙✨

#personalgrowth #selfmastery #growthmindset #selfdiscovery #vanlife

In life, people will always try to tell you who you are.

You'll be pitched what's right and what's wrong...

And you'll be embarrassed when you feel otherwise.

You'll get taught what you should or should not do...

And you'll feel guilty if you desire differently.

You'll be judged for feeling too much, or too little...

Or criticised for not being enough.

There will be people who make you feel afraid when you're trying to be better...

Or others who need you to stay the same.

There will always be people who try to fix you,

And at times, you'll believe you need to be fixed.

In a world where people have a lot to say, the greatest gift you can give yourself, is to know yourself.

Because when you do, you'll see those things for what they are.

You'll see that it is them who are afraid...

Which means you needn't be.

When you know yourself, you are free.

#selfdiscovery #selfconfidence #selfmastery #personaldevelopment #personalgrowth #personalpower #motivation #growthmindset #foodforthought #vanlife #lifeontheroad #mentoring #motivationmindset #mindshift #freedomseeker #freeyourmind #

Exploring is food for the soul ✨

These last two weeks have been so incredibly special.

I never imagined I would be on the tracks as much as I have, but the more I tuned in to myself, the more I kept ending up there.

There's something so freeing and exciting about exploring.

When you choose something at random, just to see where it takes you.

When you stay present and just follow your intuition.

I've noticed there's usually a slight hesitation or fear that accompanies it on the tracks...

Like whether I really should jump to that rock because I might not get back...

...or whether I really should go down that path that's unmarked.

And even though it's scary, the result is always worth it.

I feel so grateful that I have listened to the silent whispers of my intuition over the last couple of weeks, because it's led me to some pretty amazing things & places.

And it's no different to everyday life.

Unknowns are scary.

When you don't know if you should do that thing or what might happen.

But the same truth applies.

Our intuition is always speaking to us and encouraging us to explore the path less travelled.

It's continually trying to push us out of our comfort zone so we can experience more greatness.

Trusting those whispers takes time, but the more we listen, the more confidence we build in our intuition and how it always knows best.

And if things get hard, we are okay - Because we know the result will always be worth it ✨

#personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #selfdiscovery #vanlife #freedomseeker #lifeontheroad #homeonwheels #hikingadventures #nomadlife #adventuring #soloadventures #campervans #selfmastery #personalmastery #comfortzone #growthmindset

Yesterday I felt the painful process of growing.

Not only was I feeling groundless & lost, I realised that I didn't feel confident in what I was doing.

Growing is always hard because there's that period of time where things don't yet feel easy.

You think more than you'd like to & everything feels a little uncertain.

You can feel more worried, helpless or afraid.

I know for me, it can be really easy in those moments to want to bury my head.

I'll notice that I want to tune out or keep busy to avoid tackling the thing head on.

Which is obviously not helpful & in the past, has run me into darker places.

We can end up eating, sleeping, drinking, gaming, working or procrastinating more than we'd like.

Literally doing anything that prevents us from feeling the feels of uncertainty & not knowing what we're doing.

I know now that my creature comforts are always temporary.

They never solve the actual issue and they never surge me any further forward.

I've done it so many times, you'd think it would get easier.

And in a way it has... Just not in the way I imagined.

The more I've grown, the more I've learned that it's simply the way I respond to these things that matters... Not what I do or don't do.

Not judging myself for what I did.

Not hoping I will feel some other way.

Not expecting myself to already know how.

It's about reminding myself that I'm learning.

Yesterday I had the presence of mind to remind myself that feeling uneasy, uncertain and lost is always part of what it is to be human

Even though I didn't feel great, I was able to allow space for it.

I was able to tell myself that my creature comforts would not help me feel more confident.

And when I thought about the experience as an assignment to learn, everything seemed a lot less scary.

At the end of the day, I'm not supposed to know or feel confident yet.

And in retrospect, I see that this perspective allowed me to open up again...

... To life & to the growth opportunity in front of me.

One thing I am confident in is my ability to learn so I am trusting that the rest will take care of itself ✨

#selfdiscovery #personalgrowth #motivation #selfmastery #growthmindset

What a week it's been ✨⛰️🚐

After the mammoth last few months, it feels good to really feel grounded again.

Getting on the road and back to nature has finally stripped things back, and it's a nice feeling.

This time round I've really let myself explore everything and anything that I want in the moment.

And at times, my mind has definitely circulated back to timelines and plans, but I've made a conscious effort to simply watch the mind rather than play into it.

As a result I feel like things have flowed better than ever and more importantly, I've not had any regrets.

I know in the past, there would be so many times where I'd see something cool but in my effort to get to where i was going, I wouldn't stop.

I would always feel a pang of regret.

This time I have really honoured my desires in those moments and they led to some of the best things I've seen.

I honestly can't believe the amazing things I've seen in the last week and I feel so grateful to have been able to experience it.

I'm thankful to those who made it possible for me and also proud of myself for just letting myself be.

Excited for more to come ✨🚐⛰️

#vanlife #lifeontheroad #freedomseeker #selfdiscovery #personalgrowth #personalpower #personalfreedom #vancelife #homeonwheels #vanlifevirals #vanadventures #beherenow #motivationalmindset #growthmindset

The view is not always better at the top ✨

I’ve been thinking so much lately about the journey vs the destination.

It’s super cliché but there’s something really different that happens when you embody the practice of being where you are.

I’ve consciously been witnessing & bringing awareness to the times when my mind wants to get somewhere or be somewhere else.

Thinking I need to get to the next destination on the trip.

The desire to reach the top of a peak.

The focus on arriving at the next stop.

I’ve really enjoyed witnessing this from a place of pure awareness because it’s allowed me to really release these mindset traps.

It’s allowed me to see and experience some of the most amazing things that I wouldn’t have otherwise.

When we're always focused on getting somewhere, we totally miss all of the amazing and beautiful things right in front of us.

Like the epic scenery on the drive.

Or the better vantage point from halfway up the hill.

Or the smaller more discreet path that leads you to a hidden waterfall.

If we’re always focused on getting to the top, we miss a lot of potentials.

Our tunnel vision literally prevents us from being present and that stops us from seeing or experiencing anything better.

Think about it…if you’re focused on getting to the top (in any way, shape or form) and it's not what you thought, then you’ve already walked past and missed all of the other opportunities and things that were there.

What did you miss every day when you were hyper focused on getting to work?

Who didn’t you encounter or bother speaking to?

What didn’t you notice?

What doors never opened?

What opportunities never got spoken about?

What I love the most about embodying and embracing the journey is that you never know what is going to happen.

Sometimes that’s a scary thought…but mostly, it always leaves you feeling so damn good.

It feels like things just kind of fall into place.

Because they do…because you allow them to.

It’s not a constant battle or stress trying to get somewhere or force things to happen.

It just is and you give yourself the opportunity to experience something better ✨

#dailythoughts #personalgrowth #selfdiscovery

The amazing things you see when you're not rushing to your destination ✨🚐🌱

#vanlife #lifeontheroad #freedomseeker #bluffknoll #beherenow #vandiscoveries #travelingaus #epicviews #beautifuldiscoveries

Fools rush in ✨

These last few days I've really been focusing on how I'm feeling in response to what's right in front of me.

I've been careful not to get caught up in thinking of where I should be going or what I had said I would do.

Instead, I've opted for embracing the things that are flowing my way & paying close attention to how I feel about that in any given moment.

I've got a rough idea of where I want to go & what I want to do...

but I've been careful not to leave what's feeling amazing, in pursuit of what's potentially waiting.

I used to be really bad for this.

If I had decided what I was going to do, I would stick to it even if it caused me all sorts of stress trying to make it happen as planned.

There was no flow or room for movement
No enjoyment
No presence or appreciation

But it felt impossible to not carry out the plans I'd set.

If things or people challenged that, it felt so frustrating and stressful.

Not only was I not enjoying life, I was rushing through it and I didn't even know it.

I've worked hard to let those patterns go and seeing how far I've come is something I'm actually super proud of.

This week I decided to stay longer and explore where I have been because it was making me feel good and I wasn't done soaking it up.

Did I have plans to be elsewhere? Yes.

But I realise now that there is no point in rushing to something that only exists as potential in my mind.

What I know to be true is how content and happy I am where I am... And so I'm allowing myself to just be here and enjoy now.

It's such an amazing feeling to know that a plan is none other than potential.

It's just an idea.

It could happen, but it doesn't have to.

It may happen, but it might not.

And that's okay.

What's become more important than my plan is making sure that I am listening to myself and doing what I want right now, because that's all I really know for sure.

It's important that I feel content and at peace... that I do not rush.

For me, the ultimate fulfillment is feeling that I have nowhere to be and nothing to do ✨

#vanlife #lifeontheroad #freedomseeker #selfdiscovery #reflections #dailythoughts #innerpeace #growth

Why I'd rather be balanced than busy ✨

When I tell people I have my own business, one thing they always ask is:

"Are you busy? Do you have a lot of clients?"

And the answer is no, and no.

Over the years I've sat with the idea of being busy a lot & what it really means.

When people ask this question, I feel what they are really asking is "is your business successful"?

And it make sense.

As a society we have come to associate busy-ness with success.

For me though, the more I've grown, the more I've realised that success is completely personal to me.

Its taken me a really long time to realise that being busy is not something I'm interested in.

And if I were busy, but didn't want to feel busy, then am I really successful?

When I think of the times where I've felt busy in my life, it's usually felt like things were somewhat out of my control.

It was often the times where I felt like I had so much to do and not enough time to do it.

It felt like I was constantly trying to stay afloat but never had the time to actually float and do what I really wanted to do.

The truth is that all I really want is for every moment to be spent doing what I truly want in the way that I want.

I want to have fewer clients so that I can give each one as much time and energy that they deserve.

I want to be able to connect with them without feeling rushed or jumping from one to the next.

I want to have enough time for myself and for things that bring me joy, so that I can always show up for others and be my best self.

I realise now that what I want is not to be busy at all.

And I never want to be busy again.

Ive come to see that success for me isn't being busy or having a lot of clients.

Its feeling at peace and knowing that every moment is mine to spend as I choose.

Success for me is floating, not trying to stay afloat.

Success for me is balance.

What does success feel like for you? 🙏💙😊✨

#balance #success #balanceoverbusy #freedomseeker #personalgrowth #selfdiscovery #selfexploration #innerpeace #truthseeker #mentoring #coaching #realthoughts #lifeontheroad #reflections #thoughtsoftheday #personalfreedom

If there is one thing that has been on my mind lately, it’s the power of truth, honesty & being real.

When I look back at my life when I was suffering or feeling unhappy, I see that every time it was born out of the desire for things to be a certain way that they just weren’t.

🌕 Getting upset about someone because of what I expected them to be and to do.

🌕 Wondering why my situation was not like other people’s.

🌕 Hoping for something to change so that it would be more in line with how things "should be”.

Over the years I spent so much time & energy waiting, hoping & wishing that things would be normal without even realising it.

And most of the time, it felt like no one else could understand.

That it was just me.

There was always this feeling that everyone else had it as it "should be” & somehow I didn’t get dealt that hand.

But along the way I realised that that’s not true at all.

There is no such thing as how it should be.

There’s no normal.

There's no recipe, set path or experience you should be having.

There's no normal relationships or family's.

In fact, the very thing that made me most unhappy in life, was constantly thinking my life should be some other way than what it actually was.

All that time spent hoping, was time that I lost getting to fully enjoy & embrace the real experience of what my life (& the things & people in it) actually IS all about.

I realised recently that even though I’m the happiest I have ever been, my life is still a total mess…and that’s a good thing.

Life is meant to be messy.

It’s not supposed to be a constant linear journey of “progress” & happiness.
It’s supposed to be a scrambled mess with ups & downs, challenges & triumphs, pain & grief, & love & fear.

It’s not having a messy life that is the problem.

It’s losing ourselves (& precious time) whilst we constantly pursue how it should be.

Nothing felt better for me than when I realised normal is just an idea…a story.

And there has been no better feeling in the world than embracing what’s true & real for myself even when it feels crazy or goes against everything I ever thought.

Because that’s my story, and that’s the whole point 🥰

A couple more happy snaps from Vance ✨

My new home and Mind Habitat HQ on wheels 🚐🤗🙏💙

#vanlife #lifeontheroad #freedomseeker #selfdiscovery #personalgrowth #personaldevelopment #mentoring #coaching #guidance #selfmastery

And so it begins... Life on the road ✨🚐🌲

At the start of the year I decided that I wanted to travel on the open road whilst continuing to mentor, coach and serve.

It's been a massive 5 month journey to get to this point with many challenges, meltdowns and moments of wanting to give up

Along the way I had to push through a lot of resistance...

Especially when it came to asking people for help.

At the 3 month mark I made the painful decision to rip everything out and start again.

And as it were, it was the best decision I ever made.

I realised it is better to take the time and make it right and be fully satisfied, happy and proud than to rush and risk feeling that I could have done more.

Travelling became not so important because I knew I was right where I was meant to be.

It wasn't about getting on the road.

It was about learning to fall in love with where I was, with whatever I was doing.

It was about not giving up.

It was about learning to deal with whatever was thrown my way.

I've never felt more connected to life, to people and to myself than I have in the last 2 months.

It's been so good in fact, life on the road is going to have to be pretty epic to top it!

I don't know what awaits me over this next 4 months, but I'm curious to find out.

My plan is to have no plan.

To fully immerse myself and enjoy things for what they are.

To connect with my beloved clients from wherever I am.

To challenge myself and take risks.

To just BE 💙🙏✨😊

#vanlife #lifeontheroad #livinglife #freedom #personalfreedom #travel #mentoring #coaching #selfempowerment #connection #loveandconnection #beherenow #consciousliving #lifecoaching #mindbody #balance

Noticed a theme of bravery this week and decided to make a list.

Couldn't fit them all into the post so here's my thoughts in full:

To be brave and courageous is to...

▶ Speak the whole truth and be radically honest
▶ Be unapolagetic about who you are
▶ Own what you think and feel without giving a f*ck what others think
▶ Not be afraid of sounding crazy
▶ Speak from the heart
▶ Take chances
▶ Redirect and start anew
▶ Follow what you feel instead of what you think
▶ Choose loneliness over company
▶ Leap without having to know all the answers
▶ Do what is needed even if you run the risk of losing people from your life
▶ Be loving regardless of whether they are loving to you
▶ Make a different choice
▶ Stay open even after you have been let down
▶ Lean on others especially when you fear you're a burden
▶ Hold steady and sit with the discomfort
▶ Let go of something good in order to experience something great
▶ Look inside yourself

#bravery #courage #selfimprovement #selfdiscovery #searchinsideyourself #mentoring #coaching #personaldevelopment #awakeningpotential

In a world where everything is always focused on what’s outside of us, it can be really hard when you are doing the work on the inside.

Paying attention to who you are, why you think the way you do and why you do the things you do, takes work.

It takes a kind of radical ownership that says “things may have happened that I didn’t deserve, but I am the only one who can change my circumstance”.

It requires giving up blame or waiting for others to change before you change.

It entails holding yourself and breathing through the moments where every part of you wants to react how you always have.

It takes courage and strength and continuous conflict between what you feel on the inside and what your mind has been taught you should do or should want.

Perhaps the hardest part of all is that more often than not, you are faced with people who don’t get it. Who don’t truly understand and who may see what you are doing as failure.

In a world where everything is about material gain, possession and power, it is crucial to remember that your success is not something that comes from what you have or what people think of what you do.

Ultimately, your success is personal to you.

It might be learning to sit with some uncomfortable emotions or noticing that you were able to hold steady instead of yell.

It might be that you had the strength to walk away from something that everyone thought you should keep at.

When you get into bed at night, it is only you who can know how successful you really are.

Trust yourself and never forget what is true for you 💙

#selfimprovement #selfdiscovery #truthseeking #speakyourtruth #radicalresponsibility #mentoring #coaching #keepgoing #awakeningpotential

This week I was reminded of the power of having the right people by our side.

Being human can be hard sometimes & in those moments, all we really want is for our relationships to be a source of comfort, safety & peace.

We experience enough self-doubt, fear & shame on our own without having it compounded by those around us.

When we’re trying to navigate our place in the world, it can be hard enough to separate what we really want with that of what we think we should.

Sometimes all we really need is for people to listen to what we’ve been thinking without trying to change it, fix it or jump on the bandwagon & confirm what we’re afraid of.

It’s amazing how someone just listening to our thoughts, intuitions & desires without doing anything can completely remove the obstacle that was in the way in the first place.

Most of the time we get stuck because we’re terrified of change & so are the people around us – which means that we get stuck in a vortex of fear, never able to truly break free.

The most important thing we can ever do is to choose wisely who we share our time, lives & truth with on a daily basis.
It’s not that we feel any less fear in the face of going after what we want, but you do so knowing that you are totally supported, loved & safe.

That no matter what, you’ll be okay.
The alternative is having that intense burning inside that I want to do something else, be someone else, create something else, but can’t.

As they say: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

Make sure you’re not investing in the wrong people for YOU.

It’s not about cutting people, being horrible or judging anyone.

It’s simply working out how to spend & invest your time & energy.

It’s becoming aware of how you feel before & after being with people.

Do they bring out the best in you?

Do you leave feeling inspired & energised, or shitty?

Do they genuinely want what’s best for you or do they make it about themselves?

Do they rally you or question you?

Finding your people may not happen overnight but it’s inevitable that when you say no to what doesn’t serve you, you’ll naturally open the door for those who do 🙏

This year I made a conscious effort to play for enjoyment.

Having always struggled with perfectionism, needing to get everything right, and always always always being quick to beat myself up; I wanted to stop this getting in the way of my love of the game and truly enjoying my game day experience.

It’s amazing how there is no real separation in our life.

The way we do life is the way we DO everything.

If in life, I feel like I need to get everything right, or expect myself to be perfect the first time, it’s pretty likely I’m going to struggle with these same demons when I show up to play.

If on a daily basis I put pressure on myself, worry about how others see me or get pissed off at myself when I don’t do what I had expected; then there’s a good chance I’ll do the same on the field.

In the last few years I’ve really noticed where these things overlapped on game days or how these mindsets have stopped me from performing at my best.

Over the last couple of seasons, if I “messed up” anything in the game, I would totally hold that frame of mind for the rest of the day. I literally couldn’t shake it.

The game seemed to be triggering a lot of self-criticism, doubt, shame and disappointment.

It didn't make much sense for something I loved so much.

I’ve learned to let go with so many things over the last decade, but in recent years Baseball has reminded me that I still have work to do…Mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

In my view, there is no real separation in life.

Sport has the potential to heal who we are because it reminds us where we need to look in order to become a better and stronger human being.

And when we deal with the root of these mindsets, it’s only natural that our performance improves.

When we no longer feel trapped by the mind, that's how our enjoyment soars.

This year I decided to lean into my triggering mindsets because I wanted to play for enjoyment…and the reward was plentiful.

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Some of the most damaging lessons happen early in life.

Think how early in your life you were made to feel that you needed to have all the answers.

It's likely you were constantly asked about your "future" & were almost always expected to have an answer.

If you didn't, you probably felt worried & anxious that you should.

You were probably left with the sense that everyone else must know, but you.

You probably thought, "why is it so easy for everyone else"?

We're conditioned early to think that we need to have the answer.

That we need to know how our future looks...

What our "plan" is
What we want to "do" with our life

We're constantly robbed of being fully here & now; & enjoying the life that we actually have.

We’re so afraid of this expectation that we often end up doing anything to show that we do "know".

People will do anything that allows them to answer the questions with conviction.

Studying anything.
Training in something.
Working somewhere.

But the truth is, no one has a clue, & that's how it's meant to be.

Your not supposed to know how your life will look, what you want to do 20 years from now, or how you should spend all your time.

How would you really have any idea?

Who you are today is not who you will be tomorrow, if you are truly living life today.

If you allow things to unfold naturally, to feel uncomfortable without knowing how things are going to turn out,

if you allow things to just be, that's when you feel most alive.

It's the uncertainty that makes life worth living.

It’s about having the ability to say "I don't know what's going to happen, but I know it's going to be okay".

If there is one thing I have learned, it's that plans change because everything changes.

When we fixate on how it should be or what we had planned, we set ourselves up for so much suffering.

😮 If it starts happening differently, we struggle
😮 If we feel differently, we keep forcing it.
😮 If it's time to let it go, we don't.

We feel more peaceful and confident when we just accept the reality.

No one has a clue & that’s how it should be.

#personaldevelopment #consciousgrowth #mentoring #consciousness #awakening #selfdiscovery

Everywhere I look at the moment, people are being diagnosed with ADHD.

It's not that what they are feeling and going through isn't fully valid, but is it really that every 10th person has ADHD?

Or are we living in a world where we haven't learned:
🔑 How we can be stressed emotionally and spiritually, without conscious awareness?
🔑 About childhood trauma and how we all carry it with us everyday
🔑 How to emotionally regulate
🔑 How to regulate our Nervous System

It's no coincidence that over the last 2 years of living in a pandemic fuelled by fear and stress that more people are being diagnosed.

The greater the stress levels, the more heightened our symptoms and experiences.

Which is why it's no surprise people are feeling more anxious, unable to concentrate, have a mind that won't and body that won't sit still.

The body is literally wired to the nth degree.

We have to remember that we are greater than a diagnosis or a label.

We are human beings who go through an experience or multiple experiences and when we understand that we are not our experiences, we have the power to change them 💙
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You can find some examples of expanded awareness in the Awareness Highlight in my bio 🙏 😊

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Have you ever had everything you thought you wanted in life but still felt a sense of emptiness within?

When you look at your life maybe you feel like you should feel happier? or more content?

Does it kind of feel like something is missing?

Does it feel void of meaning or something deeper?

Do you constantly wonder whether this is what life is really supposed to feel like?

If so, I completely understand this feeling, & is the reason I wanted to make this post today.

For a long time, I was caught in the busy-ness of life, was often overwhelmed and had a schedule that never stopped.

I would snooze the alarm non stop until I was rushing out of the house to go to a job that I never truly wanted to be in.

Even though I was good at it, I constantly felt like there was more to life and much more within me than I was experiencing.

I was always worrying, second guessing myself and questioning whether I was doing the right thing.

I didn't feel like there was any point to anything and deep down it just felt like something was missing.

I didn't realise it at the time but I was totally disconnected from myself and this was reflecting in everything I was experiencing in life...

...from work to relationships and everything in between.

I didn't realise that I had been stuck in my mind and how much this was depriving me of FEELING.

I didn't feel like I was really living or that I was truly alive.

Connecting to self again has been an incredible journey.

Never would I have thought that I could live a life on my own terms.

One where I don't ever have to feel busy because I don't wish to ever be busy.

Life has become more rich and full than I could have imagined.

The biggest thing that happened when I started this journey is that life finally made sense, and that has been the most freeing feeling in the world.

It's not that we need to run from pain or that it stops existing.

It's that we finally get to feel it all, and that's what it is to feel alive 💙

**If you have any questions about any information in this post, please feel free to reach out** 😊
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I remember so clearly the feeling of wanting to get every last minute of sleep in the morning as I could.

The night before I'd tell myself I needed 30 minutes in the morning before going to work...

...and I set my alarm accordingly.

But without fail, every time my alarm went off in the morning I'd decide that I didn't really need 30 minutes.

I'd start to bargain with myself over sleep.

I'd start choosing a bit of extra sleep over breakfast and even a shower...

...and decide that I could sleep another 10 minutes if I just move twice as fast once I got up.

Once I was up, I was already in a total rush.

I would throw everything on and head out the door without a moment to think.

I felt impatient in traffic, frustrated by anything that would get in the way or slow me down, and although I was never late a day in my life...

...I always felt late.

and the truth is, that feeling didn't disappear just because I had arrived at work.

I was tense all day and totally frustrated by anything that got in the way of getting things done.

I constantly felt on the back foot and my mind was always focused on where I needed to be.

I was never present or content and I never felt calm or at ease.

Even though that 10 minutes in bed in the morning felt so needed, I never understood the long term pain of short term pleasure.

I never realised how much a simple act could set the tone for the entire day.

I never realised how much my morning was setting the tone for my entire day and life.

When we live in Fight-and-Flight like this, we miss life.

We miss the true moments.

The times where we can really connect with others, where we can make a different choice, where we can discover an amazing opportunity.

When we're rushing, we miss what it is to truly be alive.

Mornings are precious.

How you enter the day, is how you are entering life.
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⁠For a long time I felt like I needed to have control of every detail in my life.⁠

I always needed to have a plan and was constantly focused on making sure it happened.

I struggled to wait for outcomes or to hear back about things because I wanted everything to happen instantly.

So much so that I would get angry at anyone else that didn't seem to have as much desire to make things happen.

Spontaneity was a nightmare and I often felt totally put out if someone tried to change a plan on me.

I spent a lot of my relationships focusing on other people and working hard to keep the attention off myself.

Questions were not my friend and they made me feel uncomfortable.

It often felt like everyone was working against me as I grappled with life and people who seemed to be doing the opposite to what I wanted.

And that was the problem.

I wanted things to be a certain way all the time.

The thing is, I was fighting a losing battle because I wasn't accepting that all of this stuff was actually out of my control.

What I did have control over was how I chose to respond to all of it.

Instead of trying to change people and things to fit how I wanted it to be, I learned how to change how I was responding to it...

...and that has been a totally freeing experience.

To be able to let go of stuff that I never had control over.

To take control of myself and how I respond.

That's where all the peace, safety and certainty lay.
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When I began to understand myself on this level, I felt more balanced than ever before.

Being okay with things if they happen and okay if they don't is a truly amazing place to be and is something I help others to feel every single day.

If you want to learn to let go and live more, I'd love to help you. You can send me a DM or head to the link in my bio to get in touch.
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Doing the real inner work can be really hard at times.⁠
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There are moments when things get tough and I think back to when I was totally unaware of my stress, trauma & general limitations & wonder:

What would life be like?
Would it be easier not knowing? not being aware?
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Whilst it is true that some things would definitely be easier, there is no doubt in my mind that being unaware is the more painful experience.⁠

💁🏽‍♂️ It is easier to be a victim in the world. ⁠
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💁🏽‍♂️ To outsource our responsibility & to not have to be truly honest with ourselves. ⁠
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There is so much more pain in our lives when we do not know why we feel the way we do because we perpetuate patterns that leave us frustrated, unloved, confused, hurt, disconnected & alone. ⁠

You might know that your life doesn’t feel how you want it to but feel overwhelmed or lack the words to describe or understand what you really need.⁠

So even though facing ourselves & doing the inner work can be freaking hard, there is nothing like the freedom that comes with awareness...

...When you can see clearly and understand what you feel and why.

I never realised that awareness is a choice we make every day.

Do we have the intention to look at ourselves, how things have made us feel & why? or are we trying to look the other way?
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The reality is that our past experiences impact our life everyday regardless, so isn’t it better to look?

To choose to be aware?
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If we do not choose to look into our inner world, we prevent ourselves from discovering the clarity, confidence & peace that comes from making the unconscious, conscious.⁠

When we choose to expand our awareness, we also choose to align with the truest & best version of ourselves.

This is the self who attracts purposeful work and meaningful relationships.

This is the empowered self.
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Every day people are full of so much conflict.⁠
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Am I wasting my time?⁠
Is this what I want?⁠
Is this how it should be?⁠
What am I doing wrong?⁠
Have I made the wrong choice?⁠
What should I do?⁠
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There's so much confusion and worry about the path we want to walk in life. ⁠
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⁠The problem isn't that we don't know, but rather, that we're inundated with stories of how we should be living our life.⁠
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From a young age we're asked so many leading questions that make us feel like we have very few options.⁠
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Which makes total sense why we end up making choices in life that make it easier to answer these questions.⁠
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But what if you genuinely don't have an answer to these questions?⁠
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Or maybe those choices presented are not for you?⁠
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What happens when we can answer these stupid questions but then can't enjoy our life?⁠
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All I know is that when I could answer these questions, I was full of worry, self-doubt and anxiety...⁠
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...I felt more unhappy, disconnected and unfulfilled than ever. ⁠
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Sometimes it's about realising that the questions just suck.⁠
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That they're not always great questions and you don't actually need to answer them.⁠
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Listening to yourself and the truth of your own path is so important for building your confidence, clarity and power in life.⁠
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It takes coming up with some better questions for YOU and realising there is so much peace and freedom that comes from ignoring questions that don't apply to you.⁠
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You develop more choice, more freedom, more peace and fulfillment in life. ⁠
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⁠As humans, we really aren't brought up to see just how powerful we are. ⁠
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We aren't shown how to put ourselves first and to understand our own inner world and what we are capable of.⁠
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We aren't encouraged to be ourselves, instead asked "what do you want to do with your life?"⁠
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When we live in a world like this, it's hard to reconnect with the self again and realise that you actually have choice over every single thing you do...

...and that you can actually say no to all that sh*t you hate doing but feel like you have to do.⁠
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Learning to tune into yourself and expand your awareness is one of the most empowering ways to change your life and take back your power. ⁠
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This is because you become aware of ALL the choices available to you in every single moment. ⁠
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This is when you can truly let go of what you have been choosing that does not serve your true and authentic self.⁠
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Think of yourself as standing in the row of an orchard. ⁠
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When you do not have expanded awareness, it looks as if you only have one way forward. ⁠
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It feels like there are no choices other than to move in that direction, but when you zoom out above the orchard, you realise there are a thousand other rows you could be walking down. ⁠
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With expanded awareness, this happens within every moment. There are infinite possibilities and choices you can make.

Expanding your awareness is a commitment to self-introspection.

It's not a flick of a switch but a continual practice in choosing to be aware and wanting to grow as a human.

It's a choice to focus on yourself and your inner world and that choice can give you total control and freedom over your entire life.

** If you want to work on expanding your awareness and experiencing deeper levels of satisfaction and meaning in your work and relationships, then hit me up for a chat **
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If people have ever been referred to you as a closed book, then you probably know what it's like to feel like a lone wolf.

🙇 I used to be so heavily guarded and unable to trust anyone.
🙇 I kept everything to myself
🙇 Was highly observant
🙇 Felt uncomfortable when asked questions and often focused on other people
🙇 I kept all my cards close to my chest

And it worked very well for 25 years.

But deep down, I definitely felt like I was going at life all on my own...

...which felt lonely.

With lack of emotional safety growing up, I developed the safety mechanism of keeping everything to myself.

Many people naturally adopt this position when they've been let down or lacked the support they truly needed.

It is this lack of safety that leads to a loss of trust & for many people, they close down to the world...

...Which makes total sense until it doesn't.

For me, there came a time when this started to become a barrier for my own growth, fulfillment & my ability to connect more deeply to life.

My relationships had been unfulfilling & one-sided.

But the thing is, true connection can't happen when we're not fully showing up.

It can't exist without being real & vulnerable.

It doesn't happen if we don't risk being seen.

I realised that I needed to let go of the walls...not for others but for me.

I had to learn how to open so I could rewrite the story I had always known.

Even though it has been hard, I wouldn't change it for the world because wow, my life has completely shifted from doing so...

...Exponentially.

Going at life alone only takes you so far.

Don't get me wrong, it's helpful to protect yourself among the wrong people...but eventually you have to be brave & willing to re-open.

Not only did I develop more meaningful connections with people, I developed more confidence & peace.

When we stay open and risk being seen, we have the ability to attract the right connections and that has the power to heal, grow and transform us all.
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#personaldevelopment #mentoring #coaching #consciousgrowth #support #connection #growth

It takes trial and error to discover what truly feels right for YOU in life.⁠
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Over the years I've practiced as a Holistic Counsellor and a Coach...⁠
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...yet neither really felt quite right.⁠
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Neither felt true for me in terms of the experience I wanted to create when working with others.⁠
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I felt conflicted between the systemic rules of being a Counsellor and what I really felt as a human being.⁠
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I didn't like the idea of having a one way dialogue with someone...⁠
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...it felt like I was pretending that most things didn't or hadn't happened to me too.⁠
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Not only did it feel totally inauthentic, it also felt like a massive barrier to what I was trying to achieve.⁠
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I truly believe that connection has the ability to heal and transform.⁠
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But true connection can't happen when we're not transparent or real with other people.⁠
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It doesn't matter if someone is a Counsellor, a Therapist, or something else....⁠
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...Everyone goes through stuff.
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Every human has stuff in their lives to deal with.⁠
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In fact, it's THIS stuff that makes people better and stronger.⁠
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So what's the point in pretending it's not there?⁠
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I'm not saying that when I work with someone, it becomes about me.⁠
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Not at all.⁠
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Instead, it is about sharing and being real about this stuff as a way to help others understand their own thoughts, feelings and behaviours...⁠
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...and to know they're not alone.⁠
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The thing is, this is actually why so many people struggle,⁠
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Because they think they shouldn't feel what they feel or that it's not okay, or that there is something wrong with them.⁠
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When in actual fact, this stuff is UNIVERSAL and it is the substance for all growth.⁠
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We need the stuff.⁠
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And sharing these things, not only builds connection, it also builds confidence and trust, and that creates massive transformation 🔥
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